[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/www.salis.cz\/kdyz-mate-doma-maleho-vzteklouna\/#Article","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/www.salis.cz\/kdyz-mate-doma-maleho-vzteklouna\/","headline":"Kdy\u017e m\u00e1te doma mal\u00e9ho vzteklouna…","name":"Kdy\u017e m\u00e1te doma mal\u00e9ho vzteklouna…","description":"Vztek\u00e1n\u00ed \u2013 obdob\u00ed vzdoru. Ale skute\u010dn\u011b to tak je? Ne ka\u017ed\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b se ale vztek\u00e1 a n\u011bkter\u00e9 se vztek\u00e1 neust\u00e1le, vlastn\u011b m\u00e1te pocit, \u017ee kdy\u017e se jeden den nevztek\u00e1, \u017ee…","datePublished":"2022-05-14","dateModified":"2023-05-30","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.salis.cz\/author\/#Person","name":"","url":"https:\/\/www.salis.cz\/author\/","identifier":1,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/dac37d998cdbc92cc7ee5d23d4d689a369122af40c5450007470acab45b61d68?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/dac37d998cdbc92cc7ee5d23d4d689a369122af40c5450007470acab45b61d68?s=96&d=mm&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"salis.cz","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"\/logo.png","url":"\/logo.png","width":600,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/www.salis.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/smutn%C3%A9%20d%C3%ADt%C4%9B_1.jpg","url":"https:\/\/www.salis.cz\/wp-content\/uploads\/smutn%C3%A9%20d%C3%ADt%C4%9B_1.jpg","height":0,"width":0},"url":"https:\/\/www.salis.cz\/kdyz-mate-doma-maleho-vzteklouna\/","about":["D\u011bti"],"wordCount":474,"articleBody":"Vztek\u00e1n\u00ed \u2013 obdob\u00ed vzdoru. Ale skute\u010dn\u011b to tak je? Ne ka\u017ed\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b se ale vztek\u00e1 a n\u011bkter\u00e9 se vztek\u00e1 neust\u00e1le, vlastn\u011b m\u00e1te pocit, \u017ee kdy\u017e se jeden den nevztek\u00e1, \u017ee se stal mal\u00fd z\u00e1zrak. D\u00edt\u011b se za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 vztekat od druh\u00e9ho roku \u017eivota a kon\u010d\u00ed zhruba kolem p\u00e1t\u00e9ho roku sv\u00e9ho \u017eivota. D\u00edt\u011b si za\u010dne vlastn\u011b budovat osobitost. Uv\u011bdomuje si „j\u00e1jstv\u00ed“ a sv\u00e9 ego. D\u00edt\u011b se \u010dasto vztek\u00e1 proto\u017ee: je t\u0159eba unaven\u00e9, n\u011bco se mu nechce d\u011blat, n\u011bco chce a nedostane to. T\u0159eba chce n\u011bjakou hra\u010dku \u010di sladkosti, vy mu to nekoup\u00edte, a tak se d\u00edt\u011b vztek\u00e1.\u00a0P\u0159edstavte si, \u017ee se najednou va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b za\u010dne vztekat. Lid\u00e9 se za\u010d\u00ednaj\u00ed ot\u00e1\u010det, ta pozornost je nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e1. A m\u00e1te pocit, \u017ee cokoli ud\u011bl\u00e1te, bude \u0161patn\u011b \u2013 nebo dob\u0159e? A i kdybyste cokoli ud\u011blali, v\u017edycky se najde n\u011bkdo, kdo to n\u011bjak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem bude kritizovat.\u00a0Jsou v podstat\u011b dva extr\u00e9my. Prvn\u00ed extr\u00e9m je, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011bti za\u010dnete vyhro\u017eovat, \u017ee mu napl\u00e1c\u00e1te, k\u0159i\u010d\u00edte na n\u011bho, chytnete ho za ruku a vl\u00e1\u010d\u00edte za sebou.\u00a0Dal\u0161\u00ed extr\u00e9m je, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011bti ti\u0161e domlouv\u00e1te, p\u0159emlouv\u00e1te ho, sna\u017e\u00edte se ho n\u011b\u010d\u00edm uplatit ve stylu: „No tak dob\u0159e, j\u00e1 ti tu hra\u010dku koup\u00edm. Kdy\u017e se p\u0159estane\u0161 vztekat, dostane\u0161 bonbony.“ Kdy\u017e toto ud\u011bl\u00e1te, tak si d\u00edt\u011b uv\u011bdom\u00ed, \u017ee se bude zase vztekat a ty bonbony nebo hra\u010dku si prost\u011b a jednodu\u0161e vyvztek\u00e1, co\u017e nen\u00ed zrovna moc dobr\u00e9.\u00a0N\u011bkdo m\u00e1 n\u00e1zor, \u017ee se d\u00edt\u011bte prost\u011b v\u0161\u00edmat nebude anebo \u017ee ho za\u010dne napodobovat, oboje tak\u00e9 nen\u00ed dobr\u00fd n\u00e1pad.Mus\u00edte nejprve pochopit sami sebe, pochopit sv\u00e9ho potomka. Pro\u010d se vztek\u00e1? Co se d\u011bje? Nesm\u00edte \u0159e\u0161it okol\u00ed, \u017ee na v\u00e1s z\u00edr\u00e1.\u00a0To, jak se d\u00edt\u011b nyn\u00ed chov\u00e1, to je v podstat\u011b tak zvan\u00e9 zrcadlen\u00ed. Nic v\u00edc.\u00a0Vztek je emoce stejn\u011b jako radost, smutek, skv\u011bl\u00e1 n\u00e1lada. Ne v\u017edy jdou emoce rychle ovl\u00e1dnout a zvl\u00e1dnout, ale pracovat se s t\u00edm d\u00e1.\u00a0Mus\u00edme si uv\u011bdomit, \u017ee se d\u00edt\u011b nevztek\u00e1 jen tak, proto\u017ee slun\u00ed\u010dko. T\u0159eba je unaven\u00e9 a t\u0159eba. Jednejte s d\u00edt\u011btem empaticky, \u017ee ch\u00e1pete, \u017ee je unaven\u00e9, na\u0161tvan\u00e9 a empaticky mu vysv\u011btlete, \u017ee sice ho ch\u00e1pete, ale \u017ee opravdu mus\u00edte j\u00edt, \u017ee to je\u0161t\u011b mus\u00edte chvilku vydr\u017eet. Bu\u010fte prost\u011b s n\u00edm, a ne proti n\u011bmu. Jste na to dva.\u00a0                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                "},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Kdy\u017e m\u00e1te doma mal\u00e9ho vzteklouna…","item":"https:\/\/www.salis.cz\/kdyz-mate-doma-maleho-vzteklouna\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]